I got married last year and the week of our wedding, we got the news that my husband would be deploying at the end of the summer. Pretty bummed that he would be gone for almost a full year just 6 months after our wedding, but it’s over now and he’s back home with me and the pup and we couldn’t be happier! Here are some of my tips on how to get through deployment.
1. Change your mindset
Yes, it was a tough transition for me and I was definitely sad about my husband being away for such a long time, but you just have to make the most of it. I definitely took some time to mope around and just feel all the feelings of this change. But when I was done being sad, I decided to switch my outlook on it. I told myself that it was a great time to work more on myself, do things for me and just be selfish. And that’s exactly what I did and I really enjoyed being alone. You grow a lot and you learn a lot about yourself too.
It’s a perfect time to go and visit some friends and family. I spent the holidays with my sister after years of not being with her for the holidays and it was really nice. It’s a great excuse to see loved ones that you haven’t seen in a while or even go on that solo trip that you’ve been dreaming about but never had the chance or the courage to go on.
3. Do something you’ve always wanted to do
I’ve always wanted to have my own business and this was a great time to focus on that goal. I left my full time job to pursue something that I never thought I would have the time to do. So far it’s been a challenge but it’s been such a rewarding journey and I’ve got no regrets!
4. Pick up a new hobby
Trying something new is a great way to spend your time with your extra free time. I started going to the gym and I started a plant collection. It gave me things to focus on that required me to learn and research. It took up a lot of my time and I enjoyed it. Try something you’ve always wanted to try.. take a class.. it’s the perfect time to do it!
5. Spend time with friends
I don’t know how I would have gotten through it without my friends. They’ve helped keep me busy, offered to have dinners with me, and kept me laughing. I love them and am so thankful for them!
This deployment got harder for me more toward the middle to ending and that’s when I started journaling and it helped me a lot. I started a gratitude journal and each morning I would wake up, do a little meditation and then journal something I was grateful for. It really helped to start my day on a positive note.
7. Keep up with a routine
Because I had decided to leave my job to pursue my business, not having a set routine definitely threw me off. Working a full-time job, really helped me in the beginning of deployment because it kept me busy and being so busy helped keep my mind off of things. When I left, I had to develop a whole new routine, but once I got it down, I felt a lot better, more productive and time started to really fly by.
8. Treat yourself
Really take care of yourself! Do things you love. Get your nails done, try out a new hairdo, or get a massage. I started getting into skincare and built a collection of face masks!
9. Learn new recipes
I never really had to think about cooking because my husband usually did the cooking or we would order takeout. Learning how to cook was a lot of fun and I was able to eat whatever I wanted to haha!
10. Binge on Netflix
I did way too much of this, but it kept me busy especially at night when my mind was wandering and I couldn’t sleep! Perfect time to watch all the chick flicks and all the shows he would never watch with me. I unsubscribed to Netflix in the middle of deployment to force my butt off the couch, but it helped me a ton in the beginning haha.
I hope this helps you, if your spouse is deployed. Just remember that time will pass and he/she will be home before you know it! Take the time for yourself, do things that you love, be selfish! It will be hard, but you will grow and your relationship will too.